Emotional intelligence is all about understanding and dealing with emotions—yours and others’. People who are really good at this can read emotions like a book and know how to react. It’s super important for getting along with people at home and work.
Think you might need a little boost in emotional smarts? Here are seven things you might be saying that could be a clue:
- “I’m not going to change. This is who I am.”
Being able to change and adapt is a big deal if you’re emotionally intelligent. If you find it hard to change and always stick to your own way, you might need to work on this. It’s great to have your own ideas, but listening to others is important too.
Try saying this instead: “I’ll think about what you said. It’s good for me to listen to others, even when it’s tough.”
- “I don’t care how you feel.”
If you don’t pay attention to how others feel, it could mean you’re not too good with emotional stuff. Showing you care, especially when times are hard, helps make strong, helpful friendships.
Better to say: “I’m sorry you’re feeling bad. How can I help?”
- “It’s your fault I’m feeling this way.”
People who are really good with emotions know that they’re in charge of how they feel, not other people or things. Our feelings come from inside us, based on what we think about stuff happening around us.
Instead of blaming others, try saying: “I’m feeling a lot right now. I think it’s because…”
